What Is Your Love Language?

WE RECEIVE AND GIVE LOVE IN DIFFERENT WAYS. UNDERSTANDING YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE AND THAT OF YOUR PARTNER PUTS YOU ON THE PATHWAY TOWARDS A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP.

We hear the term “love languages” being thrown around liberally when people talk about intentionally dating, but, what does it really mean?

Background: ‘Love Languages’, a term coined by marriage counsellor Gary Coleman, are 5 common ways that people show affection. Mr. Coleman concluded after 30years of counselling couples that most couples show their love and affection in 5 ways:

  1. Words of affirmation

  2. Quality time

  3. Receiving gifts

  4. Acts of service

  5. Physical touch

 

Consider this: Most times the way we show our love and affection is typically how we want to receive love and affection too. One problem that many couples face is that while one partner may feel like they are being the ‘best’ partner, they may be missing the mark as they are not 'speaking' their partner’s love language but rather their own. This ends up creating feelings of frustration, discontent and ultimately conflict. These are unfortunate consequences that could have been avoided by true self-awareness.

 

Understanding your love language will allow you to clearly state how you want to loved and also help you become more attuned to your potential partner’s true love language. This understanding of your love languages will help you build a solid foundation on which the relationship can blossom and grow from.

Tell me more: The book “5 Love Languages” by  Gary Coleman is a great resource to discover a bit more on your Love Language.

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